This post is part of the 30 Days Towards Connected Parenting series.
Every parent needs daily simple actionable ways to connect with their child to improve on connection. There are tons of ways to connect with your child. The key is finding what feels organic to you and your family. What works best for you and your child may be completely different to what I’ve found helpful.
It’s the little things that count. It’s about making connection an everyday goal.
Connection happens through all the little ways we show we hear, value, care, love and respect our children.
It’s participating in activities together – reading together, doing art, playing a game or just being silly together.
Connecting can be as simple as a being fully present and listening in a conversation.
It’s watching play when you are unnecessarily busy.
It’s telling them and showing them you LIKE them as well as love them.
It’s how they hear you discuss them with others.
It can sometimes happen as fast as a loving, knowing smile.
It doesn’t have to be a set “connection time” but recognising the moments you can capitalise on.
I find making otherwise mundane times a moment for connection (car trips, meal prep, bed time) is helpful.
Most parents have an unknown love language – how we show and tell our children we love them beyond those words. It’s about making them a priority.
Consistent connection is so important and a matter of being truly present with your child whenever you can. It’s important to learn the ways that help your child feel connected to you.
- Is your child particularly affectionate?
- Do they enjoy talking out their thoughts?
- What are they interested in which you can participate in or encourage them in?
Find what is going to help them and make a concerted effort to work more of that into your every day life.